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Title:
Hedges
Series: ----------
Author:
Jerry Jenkins
Rating: 4 of 5 Stars
Genre:
Christian Self-help
Pages: 173
Words:
50K
Part One was warning stories and showing how even good Christians can be taken unaware. It was nothing new to me but was a very good reminder of how little things can be turned into big things, so stop them when they are still little.
Jenkins also talks about what the Bible says about protecting your marriage. It came across like he was writing to people who had never read the Bible. Which I guess, sadly, is the case in too many Christian’s lives. I found myself repeating “Well duh, of course the Bible says that.”
Finally, in part one, he talks about how people willfully blind themselves to their actions and the consequences of those actions. He points out how much damage is done by people just doing what they want instead of what they know they should.
Part Two is where he discusses some of the hedges he has planted over the years in his life (he was about 40 when he originally wrote this). He outlines why he did each one and references earlier warning stories to show where the lack of a hedge leads to.
I found almost everything he wrote about were things I was already doing. Whether from my upbringing and training in the KCM church or my own innate inability to be around people long term, I was doing and had been doing, since my early 20’s. Most of it seemed like common sense to be honest, but once again Jenkins seems to be writing to people who have never thought about the subject. I guess I was hoping for something new and startling. That’s the problem with a lot of these Christian books, they are talking to the lowest common denominator and I wanted more. Of course, living the way I have, and do, has saved me from so much trouble and problems. I need to be thankful for that blessing.
It was a good refresher course though, to be reminded to keep on cultivating those hedges and to not let them wither and die away. Jenkins also talked about some of the positive, proactive hedges he has put in place, like remembering the good times and spending enough time together. Some hedges are passive while others require an active participation on our part. I was glad to read those bits.
The Final Part was dealing with with families with kids and some of the things a father can and should do regarding their kids to prepare them for their own marriages.
This was a very personal and personable book. Jenkins unapologetically makes his statements to men. This is a book by a man, about men, for men. It took me back at first, as we’re so used to things being for everyone nowadays, but it was refreshing. Men need to be active in their relationships and they need advice tailored to them. It is why mentoring is so important.
Overall,
this was a good book but it did not have as much “new to me” info
as I was hoping. A solid 4star book and one I would highly recommend
to any man, the younger the better. It also adds a notch to my
Non-fiction belt. I'm pretty proud of that fact.
~does the Rocky
victory lap~
★★★★☆
From Bookstooge.blog
Table of Contents:
Part I:
1: Tangled Web
2: Changing Climate
3: Don’t Blame God
4: Dynamics of Flirtation
5: Biblical Basis for hedges
6: Power of Self-Deception
Part II:
1: Two’s Company, Three’s Security
2: Touchy, touchy
3: Some Compliments Don’t Pay
4: Memories
5: Quality time vs Quantity time
Part 111:
1: Everybody loves a love story
2: When victory comes
